What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

My boy has had to take a lot of crap from other kids over the years but to be fair he hasn’t let it bother him too much lately.  That old saying ‘What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ has been especially true for him.  There was a time when he would have a meltdown every day because the other kids would call him names and leave him out of stuff.  

As you all know Freddie Mercury has played a massive part in Alfie’s life and if he hadn’t found Freddie I am not sure where he/we would be right now.  You see, Freddie has given him a lot of confidence over the last two years and the power to accept that it’s ok to be different and not follow the crowd. 

Freddie Mercury took a lot of critiscism over the years but he never let it bother him.  He was made fun of on many occasions because of his teeth and his flamboyant nature. Having his teeth straightened was not an option and the more outrageous he became the better he felt.  He worried that having his teeth straightened would affect his voice.  A risk he wasn’t prepared to take.  So he ignored his critics but remained conscious. He was a strong example of ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’.

Freddie was someone not ashamed to be himself.  Afterall he was the front man for one of the greatest bands of all time. There will never be anyone like him.

Exploiting his differences

Alfie knows he is different to the other kids.  Knowing this, is why he, like Freddie, tries to exploit his differences. This is why Alfie aspires to be like Freddie.  He knows that no matter what life threw at Freddie, he never let it get him down.  Quite the opposite infact.  Freddie would always come back and astound his critics which is exactly what Alfie intends to do.

It’s Alfie’s way of putting two fingers up to all those who goaded him, didnt let him play or called him weird.  You see it’s true! What doesn’t kill you does, indeed, make you stronger.

Alfie won best solo performer in a talent contest and won student of the year at his vocal school. He gives it all he’s got and this is just an example of him fighting back when everything seemed to be going against him.  When he gets up on that stage, all his cares just slip away.  I can’t tell you how proud we are of him. With each performance he becomes emotionally stronger.

‘I will be famous one day mum’ is a phrase I hear daily.  There is no ‘if’ in his vocabulary only ‘when’.  He is already planning his house, his cars and his lifestyle.  If you are a believer in the law of attraction you wont doubt him either.  He really is a star.

The world had ended!

On Thursday last week Alfie came home from school with a raging sore throat which meant he couldnt sing for a few days.  This, by the way, didnt make him stronger, it nearly killed him!!  

Singing to Queen songs and performing like Freddie is his only interest, so i am sure all you Aspie’s out there will appreciate what he was going through.   Having the one thing he loved taken away from him was not a pretty sight.  We had many cross words that day but thankfully we managed to avoid a meltdown.

What made it worse was that he was unable to go to school the next day.  It wouldn’t have been so bad but it had to be the day they gave out forms for parents to fill in for a ‘sounds from the 80’s’ production.  

Yep, he needed my signature to take part before Monday.  He knew that he would not be able to get me to sign it before the rehearsals that evening if we left getting the form from school on monday.  It was like his world had ended!!

My mission = prevent meltdown at all costs.

Alfie was getting more and more agitated, pacing up and down at the same time.  I hadn’t seen him like this for quite a long time.  I knew I had to do something to avoid a meltdown before it was too late.  Trouble is, I didn’t know anyone I could ask for a copy of the form.  Absolutely nobody.  Not a soul.

Social media to the rescue

I quickly messaged my daughter’s to ask them to get hold of a copy of the form at all costs!  I knew, that between them, they had to know someone who would have this form.  It just so happens Alfie’s youngest sister knew someone in the same year as Alfie and they had a copy! Social Media was our saviour!  Immediately I could see the relief on his face.  Once again he would get to perfom as Freddie in front of all of the people that ridiculed him!  He was so happy and his change in mood was amazing which proves how much it meant to him

Freddie gives Alfie power and makes him stronger

Alfie also entered the ‘Wales Got Talent’ competition a few weeks ago and has made it through to the quarter finals.  He had 3 yes’ from the judges who seemed to be very impressed with his act.  We are now waiting to hear when the quarters will be held.  Hopefully it will be soon. 

Alfie is very excited about this one and is ready to take the stage all the way to the semi finals.  Remember there are no ‘if’s’ only ‘whens’.  I will say it again as I have done in my previous posts; WE HAVE A LOT TO BE THANKFUL TO ASPERGER SYNDROME FOR.  It has so many positives which far outweigh the negatives.  You just have to find a niche.

His Freddie obsession has also led to him writing his own songs which can be found here

 

Bye for now

Rachel

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